Tag: rejection

Lunch Game

With the aim to keep the momentum going from yesterday I decided to head out and see what was on offer this lunchtime. I met up with one of my wings on Henry Street and it was full of opportunities. Lots were in groups or with their parents which didn’t help my AA. It’s a warm sunny Monday and everyone seems in great spirits. To get the ball rolling I approached what looked like an easy set. My guess was that she was Brazilian but wasn’t 100%. Usually this type of set is great to help warm up as South American girls in Dublin are usually really receptive. She had her headphones in and was walking quickly but I didn’t let that get in my way. I did the front stop and she didn’t even look at me, kept her headphones in, kept looking forward and continued walking. Thankfully I didn’t allow that to dampen my spirits. Like yesterday, I let a few opportunities pass me by. As we basked in the sun at the top of Grafton Street we saw this attractive looking girl window shopping. As she walked by my wing went after her. He was gone for about 10 minutes and came back with a big smile. Brazilian, very receptive and stunning! Well done!

Just as I was saying goodbye I saw a girl that was just my type. I was nervous as she had a resting bitch face but I forced myself to go. It was possibly the worst rejection I’ve ever got doing daygame. I did the front stop and she gave me the dirtiest look ever. Took off her headphones and asked what I was thinking going near her (I was standing a good 1.5 metre away). She gave me another filthy look and went on her way. Now the learning point – Usually a reaction like that would normally rock me. I’d question why I was out on the streets doing this. Her reaction (although it stung) is fair enough. She may have being having a shitty day or whatever. Failures help you progress and I’m going to use this rejection to help me improve my front stop. If one isn’t failing one isn’t trying hard enough. I will remind myself of this as the Covid-19 rejections build up over the next few weeks! The aim is to keep the momentum up for the rest of the week.

Lockdown Date

10 weeks into lockdown and my days of daygaming are a distant memory. Although I’m worried I’ve lost the progress I had made I’m sure once things start to relax a little I can get back to where I was before. Thankfully T.T. is back online having uploaded a decent amount of content onto his YouTube channel, Blacksheep Bandit. I have also reread The Game by Neil Strauss which has given me the motivation to really give night game a go once bars and clubs open again. The majority of the summer will be lost but we still have August to cut our teeth in the bars and clubs of the city. I’m sure the AA will be strong for the first few approaches a feeling I can’t wait to experience again! Anyway the point of the post. Two weeks ago I managed to organize a coffee date with a girl I knew from years ago. It was the final few minutes of the date that I want to discuss.

This girl was Irish and was moving to another part of the country two days later so it was a rushed kind of date. She didn’t live too far away from me so I told her we would grab coffee and go for a walk in the park. I gave her the option of meeting me in the park or me picking her up at her place and she went for the latter, a green light I thought. The date itself went well although it did get very chatty and friendly as we discussed things from the past (we had worked together in 2006). She mentioned that she was moving and had a heavy suitcase that she was struggling to move so I offered to move it when I dropped her home. She agreed. Another green light I thought. Fast-forward a few hours and I’m in her house. I’m not sure if it was being locked down for over 8 weeks but my adrenaline was up and I was finding it tricky to think straight. Once you’re in the house the rest just falls into place I thought. Not so. So I finished moving the case and was standing at the door. There was that awkward moment that I can’t get comfortable with which forced me to go for a somewhat half arsed kiss on cheek/side of face. With that over with I quickly got in my car and drove away. I mention this as it reminds me of the date I had with the American girl. As I walked her to her hotel and she stopped outside (I assumed we were going straight in) when she said goodbye and went for a kiss I got her cheek too and then left quickly after.

I think getting the cheek when I go in for a kiss feels like a rejection to me and instead of owning the situation and being a man and calling it out I get flustered and leave quickly. Reflecting I have definitely lost opportunities because of this. Have you experienced this before? I think I need to prepare myself to go directly for the lips and not give her the chance to offer her cheek or be ready to respond in assertive way if she does just give me a cheek. It’s a shit test and I’ve failed a few times. Hopefully the lesson is learnt.