Surprise!

After months of not being able to do any approaches, restrictions are finally lifting which is resulting in more people being on the streets. Two weeks ago Tom and I decided to dip our toes in the murky waters of Dublin’s streets and see what was on offer. Unfortunately, parts of the city are like skid row, were once you would easily stop many south american students going about their day, now one is more likely to dodge between groups of homeless people and others high on drugs. As a result, Grafton street seems to be the wiser option for the time being. We’ve gone out three times now and the first time was pretty uneventful, there were definitely sets that we could have opened but it was hard to build up any momentum as they all seem to be travelling in big groups at the minute.

I’m happy in many ways that I’m making some sort of effort to be back on the streets and also sharing my experiences here. It seems the purpose of this post was to share that I’m back doing game again but I also want to share an experience I had when I opened a girl a few days ago on the north side of the city. I had seen her on the other side of the road and from where I was standing she was all dressed up. It looked like she had a great juicy booty and was happy showing off a great rack. I could not let this one pass!

As she walked ahead of me I took my time as I was rushing previous sets that I had opened which had startled the girls. The ass was swaying from side to side, almost putting me in a daze. I took a deep breath and went for it. As I opened I realized something was amiss. After my compliment she responded ‘thank you,’ with a deeper voice than mine and I finally connected the dots. It was actually a man dressed as a woman. She was Brazilian, hence the big boobs and fake ass and as I stopped I noticed dark hairs on the upper lip. I wished her a good day and ran away as fast as I could. That gentlemen, has been my daygame highlight over the last 3 weeks. Don’t give up!

Where to begin?

I’ve been recently reading other DGer’s blogs and enjoying finding out about their trials and tribulations with daygame during Covid restrictions. I must applaud their efforts as they grind it out on the streets! I myself have been a lazy bastard who hasn’t been out since the start of September. Speaking to some of my former wings the streets of Dublin haven’t been very giving over the past few months. With the yo-yoing of lockdowns and with a higher amount of guys approaching girls in Dublin it has been tricky to find success. I cant help think what could have been if the lockdown didn’t take place. A solid group of 5 daygamers were consistently going out approaching and getting results. We had about 6 months of going out 3/4 times a week and most of us were starting to enjoy the fruits of our labor. Alas it was not meant to be!

Reflecting back on such a strange year I have two memories that stand out the most. The first was deflowering the Brazilian virgin. She was hot and cold for such a long time that when she agreed to come over to my place it felt like a big win. It was my first time sleeping with a virgin and then, to have her a few months later give me a blow job as I drove my car in the mountains made the experience even sweeter.

Next was stopping and dating the American Instagram model. I remember seeing her ahead of me in the street and thinking she looked unbelievable but struggling to muster the courage to approach. Thankfully my wing pushed me in to the set which I’m glad he did. Unfortunately, I didn’t get the lay and she had this romantic notion in her head that we were going to date long distance, I cut contact after a while. Knowing that I had success with such an intimidating set really galvanized me into doing tougher sets… and then we went into lockdown.

Since the summer I’ve been dating a hot older Mexican girl that I matched with off Tinder. It worked well for both of us but it killed any drive I had to push myself on the streets. I have recently cut contact with her and I’m hoping the Christmas holidays will make me see sense and encourage me to get back up on the horse and try again. I don’t know about anyone else but I’m finding the facemasks such a barrier. I cant fully see their face which doesn’t help and I also know that this is just another excuse . I have goals for 2021 that I will discuss in a later post but for now I’m off to enjoy the holidays. Hopefully 2021 has bigger and brighter things for all of us!

Lunch Game

With the aim to keep the momentum going from yesterday I decided to head out and see what was on offer this lunchtime. I met up with one of my wings on Henry Street and it was full of opportunities. Lots were in groups or with their parents which didn’t help my AA. It’s a warm sunny Monday and everyone seems in great spirits. To get the ball rolling I approached what looked like an easy set. My guess was that she was Brazilian but wasn’t 100%. Usually this type of set is great to help warm up as South American girls in Dublin are usually really receptive. She had her headphones in and was walking quickly but I didn’t let that get in my way. I did the front stop and she didn’t even look at me, kept her headphones in, kept looking forward and continued walking. Thankfully I didn’t allow that to dampen my spirits. Like yesterday, I let a few opportunities pass me by. As we basked in the sun at the top of Grafton Street we saw this attractive looking girl window shopping. As she walked by my wing went after her. He was gone for about 10 minutes and came back with a big smile. Brazilian, very receptive and stunning! Well done!

Just as I was saying goodbye I saw a girl that was just my type. I was nervous as she had a resting bitch face but I forced myself to go. It was possibly the worst rejection I’ve ever got doing daygame. I did the front stop and she gave me the dirtiest look ever. Took off her headphones and asked what I was thinking going near her (I was standing a good 1.5 metre away). She gave me another filthy look and went on her way. Now the learning point – Usually a reaction like that would normally rock me. I’d question why I was out on the streets doing this. Her reaction (although it stung) is fair enough. She may have being having a shitty day or whatever. Failures help you progress and I’m going to use this rejection to help me improve my front stop. If one isn’t failing one isn’t trying hard enough. I will remind myself of this as the Covid-19 rejections build up over the next few weeks! The aim is to keep the momentum up for the rest of the week.

Freedom!

It felt really strange walking the streets of Dublin today. It almost seemed like everything was back to normal. After a while, you kind of get used to the queues of people waiting outside the shops. Dublin City was the busiest I’ve seen it in four months and it was my first time daygaming since the end of February. Nervous but excited, I made my way along Henry Street to meet up with some of my wings. It was a quick session as I needed to get home by a certain time. Part of me was looking forward to chatting to the lads after so long. We walked the streets for about 20 minutes chatting about what we’d been up to for the last few months. While chatting, my eyes scanned the streets looking for anything that may pique my interest. I definitely let opportunities pass me by as I chatted with the lads. We decided to head over towards Grafton Street when I spotted a curvy black girl pass me by. She was wearing a yellow jump suit and looked good. I chased after her and opened with a nervous smile. She said she had no English and I responded with now was a good time to practice. We chatted for a while but got nowhere.

We hung around Grafton Street but didn’t see anything worth approaching. To mix things up we headed back across the river towards the Spire. As we crossed the bridge I saw this cute nerdy girl slowly walk by on her phone. My eyes instantly lit up! She was small, cute, wearing a summer dress and showing off a delicious set of tits. AA was about to kick in when I had the ‘fuck it’ moment and went for it. My stop was good but I was very nervous during the set. I was dishing out lots of compliments and was nervous when the conversation seemed to slow down so I would ask another question of death to keep things moving. Eventually I shot for the number and I got it. I think I’d really enjoy taking this one out on a date. She’s atypical in many ways to what I normally go for. She’s cute, intelligent, very nerdy but also super sexy. I’ve sent a whatsapp so we shall see where it goes. Shortly after I had to leave the city. All in all, it was a quick session full or nerves and AA but thankfully I got a number on my first session of Summer 2020.

Campervan Fun

It’s been a busy weekend here in Dublin. The sun is shining and people are beginning to explore the city once again. Hopefully as restrictions reduce we’ll be able to hit the streets and get rolling on Summer 2020.

I needed to get out of the house on Friday. I was sick of the usual routine or lack thereof. I sent a text out seeing if a Brazilian girl I’ve been chatting to fancied going on a spin. It took her some convincing but I managed to persuade her in the end. We hit Dublin mountains as the sun was setting and she was really enjoying it. Throughout the journey I kept touching and testing the waters to see how receptive she was, I got no complaints and she began touching me which I thought was a good sign. It was getting late and as I parked up outside her house she jumped me and started kissing me heavily. I could tell she was horny by the way she was kissing. I slowly kissed her neck as she moaned loudly while her breathing got faster. I grabbed her juicy tits and then all of a sudden she went cold, said goodbye and left. She text me to say that she had a great time and was really horny but didn’t want to go any further that night. Fair enough!

Over the last few weeks I’d been getting texts of the other Brazilian girl I slept with in February. She was complaining that I never text and that I’m not interested in her anymore (which is kind of true). Once I sleep with a girl I get bored really quickly and my focus moves on to the next girl. I’ve had this discussion with a wing, he prefers to develop the connection with the girl and explore new and exciting things where I seem to want to get as many lays as I can and forget about the last notch. Anyway, I could tell she was horny as I kept brushing her off and then she began sending me naked pics. So Sunday I arranged a spin in the campervan. I picked her up and she was wearing a cute summer dress with no bra on. We drove for a little while and I decided to put my hand between her legs. Her pussy was soaking wet and she moaned as I slipped my finger inside. As I navigated the winding mountain roads, I pulled my shorts down and she began to suck me off as I tried to multitask. Failing miserably at that, I found the nearest spot to park and we jumped in the back. She loved the idea of getting caught and a few times people walked past out on their Sunday stroll. We experimented in the various positions one can do in a small campervan before I took the condom off and blew my load into her mouth. Once done she looked like she wanted to cuddle (this is the part I struggle with) I found an excuse to hop into the front and started the car. What are other men like after sex is over, do you enjoy those precious moments just chilling after the intimate act or are you, like me, planning the next lay in your mind? All in all a very busy happy weekend.

Lockdown Date

10 weeks into lockdown and my days of daygaming are a distant memory. Although I’m worried I’ve lost the progress I had made I’m sure once things start to relax a little I can get back to where I was before. Thankfully T.T. is back online having uploaded a decent amount of content onto his YouTube channel, Blacksheep Bandit. I have also reread The Game by Neil Strauss which has given me the motivation to really give night game a go once bars and clubs open again. The majority of the summer will be lost but we still have August to cut our teeth in the bars and clubs of the city. I’m sure the AA will be strong for the first few approaches a feeling I can’t wait to experience again! Anyway the point of the post. Two weeks ago I managed to organize a coffee date with a girl I knew from years ago. It was the final few minutes of the date that I want to discuss.

This girl was Irish and was moving to another part of the country two days later so it was a rushed kind of date. She didn’t live too far away from me so I told her we would grab coffee and go for a walk in the park. I gave her the option of meeting me in the park or me picking her up at her place and she went for the latter, a green light I thought. The date itself went well although it did get very chatty and friendly as we discussed things from the past (we had worked together in 2006). She mentioned that she was moving and had a heavy suitcase that she was struggling to move so I offered to move it when I dropped her home. She agreed. Another green light I thought. Fast-forward a few hours and I’m in her house. I’m not sure if it was being locked down for over 8 weeks but my adrenaline was up and I was finding it tricky to think straight. Once you’re in the house the rest just falls into place I thought. Not so. So I finished moving the case and was standing at the door. There was that awkward moment that I can’t get comfortable with which forced me to go for a somewhat half arsed kiss on cheek/side of face. With that over with I quickly got in my car and drove away. I mention this as it reminds me of the date I had with the American girl. As I walked her to her hotel and she stopped outside (I assumed we were going straight in) when she said goodbye and went for a kiss I got her cheek too and then left quickly after.

I think getting the cheek when I go in for a kiss feels like a rejection to me and instead of owning the situation and being a man and calling it out I get flustered and leave quickly. Reflecting I have definitely lost opportunities because of this. Have you experienced this before? I think I need to prepare myself to go directly for the lips and not give her the chance to offer her cheek or be ready to respond in assertive way if she does just give me a cheek. It’s a shit test and I’ve failed a few times. Hopefully the lesson is learnt.

Inner Game for Daygame

When the topic of inner game comes up you find some guys are in favor and others tend to avoid. As we continue along the isolation journey I’m trying to write down some of the useful things that have helped me along the way. With inner game it divides opinion.

Inner game was an area T.T. wasn’t keen on while other coaches in the community encourage and deliver important strategies on their YouTube channel. One channel that puts a lot of content up relating to it is Fluid Social. Sam offers a holistic approach to self development and improvement. I find his content very useful and when I follow his steps my sessions are usually more productive. Sometimes when I plan a session after a busy day at work I go into auto pilot mode and smash a few sets without fully engaging in the experience. I take nothing from the session and continue along on my way. Other times when I actively follow these steps I find that my vibe is better, I’ve more energy, my awareness is heightened and my confidence is on point resulting in a more productive session.

Usually my routine begins the night before a session. I will take some time to visualize the sets that I will do the following day. I make up the type of conversations I want to have and imagine the look and style of the girls that I will stop. I’ll walk myself through the front stop right to the number close. Next I write down the non-negotiables like the amount of approaches I need to do/numbers I need to get or idates that I will go on. On the journey into town I usually listen to one of Sam’s videos to get me ready for my session, I find this one helpful https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4UI7Dlp1dVo. Once I’m on the streets I take five minutes to focus on the environment, my breathing and my footsteps on the ground and then I’m ready to start. Now some of you will think it’s a load of bollox, you don’t need to do any of that in order to have a successful session and fair enough if that is the case. For me I feel it helps reduce AA and it starts me off on the right footing and gives me a better vibe that the girls pick up on.

If you suffer from AA or struggle to build momentum during sessions give it a go and see. Check out Sam’s other material on YouTube as I’m sure you’ll find it useful.

Helpful Advice

It’s been two weeks of self isolation and as a result no daygame. The decent weather seems to be on its way and I’m sure, under different circumstances the streets of Dublin would be full of women waiting to be approached. With no opportunities to approach, I’ve been brushing up on my theory. Watching infields and rereading daygame books. As a result it got me thinking about my first few daygame sessions. In this post I will share some of the strategies that helped me when it came to making my first couple of approaches.

I was very familiar with the London Daygame Model and had viewed many infield videos on Torero and Tusk’s Youtube channel. Living in London I felt I was in the best place possible to daygame. I read lots of theory and was confident as I jumped on the Northern Line on my way into central London. Boy did that change when I hit the streets. I was so nervous I couldn’t even stop someone and ask for directions. Later that night I felt downcast and dejected and downloaded Tinder again. Tinder was my crutch for the next few weeks as it helped feed my ego. So first piece of advice would be to delete all dating apps. If you are getting validation off a dating app it will not motivate you to walk the streets looking to get hot girls’ numbers.

Eventually I came to my senses and contacted a Daygame Coach who put me in contact with a wing. Again, the first session back I was free-styling and could only stop a handful of women and ask for directions. It took me several more session to try out the front stop and stack. My wing was a lot more advanced than me and began pushing me into sets and not taking no for an answer. At the time I hated him for it but I’m so glad he pushed me as it helped me massively. Therefore, find a wing that has a bit more experience than you (if possible). They can use their experience to guide and push you when needed. A lot of times guys will find an excuse not to go and do the set, when starting out you need to find a wing that will push you into the trickiest of sets that will challenge you and help develop your skills.

Now that I had a proper wing I found that I was going out approaching consistently which helped build up a bit of momentum. AA reduced as a result and I found that I was becoming more confident in sets. Additionally, a useful piece of advice that Torero gave was to stick to one or two stacks until it becomes second nature. I stacked on nationality all the time and in London you are spoiled for choice when it comes to approaching girls from different nationalities. Same in Dublin, the majority of the sets that my wings and I do are with girls from overseas mainly Latin America.

Another thing I noticed after a couple of sessions was that I was generally confident approaching 6s and 7s but would shy away from anything above that. During one session my wing mentioned the 94 year old rule and his point hit home. It goes like this – when you’re 94 will you even remember the time a really hot girl rejected you? No. So fuck it and approach. The worst thing that could happen is she ignores you and continues on with her way. Quite often its the high 8s and 9s who are most receptive to being approached as most guys are reluctant to approach them, so fuck it and go for it! As they say rejection is always better than regret and I’m definitely regretting all the missed opportunities I lost when I had a chance to approach but didn’t.

Become familiar with LDM and watch infields on Youtube
Delete dating apps
Find a wing preferably with more experience than you
Stick to 1 or 2 stacks
Be consistent
Think of the 94 year old rule and go for it!

There are more inner game things that I could mention but I will leave that for another post.

Lay Report #2

One frosty evening about two weeks ago I received a message on my phone. The text was from a girl I stopped before Christmas who I went on a few dates with. The text said that she couldn’t give me what I wanted as she was a virgin and too nervous to try anything. She was in her mid 20s and from Brazil. Now, in the past I would have just left it and moved on, but I kept things very chilled and I could see over a few more text messages her curiosity coming through. She began asking me what other things we could explore other than sex. Over the next two weeks I began setting the scene. She was getting very horny with all the sex chats that we were having and on Wednesday she text to say that she wanted to try it out. Brilliant! Now I’ve never slept with a virgin before so was looking forward to the experience.

Friday night and the minute I closed the door it was on! Full of adrenaline she start kissing eagerly with her hands going everywhere. Over the next hour we progressed from very slowly rubbing the outside of her pussy to me pounding her hard as she lay on top of me. The sex was good and she really enjoyed putting her legs on my shoulders as I went deeper. We went again after a few glasses of wine which was even better. I had a much better experience compared to the last Brazilian, I was worried that she might act strange after sex but she was very cool. She had a really petite and feminine frame which really turned me on.

Looking back I’m glad I stuck with it, I controlled the frame after that text and guided her along subtly till she was ready to fuck!

Daygame Flakes

January is a tough month for daygame in Dublin. With the bad weather and everyone poor after the Christmas holidays the streets can be pretty quite. That didn’t stop my wings and I giving it a go and seeing what the streets had to offer. Having reviewed my success over the month it appears I did very poorly. I only managed to approach 19 girls and the quality of the sets were very poor. I went back into nice guy mode which didn’t help spike up conversations. From 5 numbers I had 4 flakes and one date. I stopped an American in the middle of the month and managed to get her out on a date. My wing spotted a tattooed girl with a big ass walk past us and sent me into the set. She was just my type. She was porn star hot, with juicy big lips and fake eye lashes. She was very receptive when I took her number, I told her that I would contact her later that night. She didn’t put the international code in so my first text never sent. I tried calling her but no joy. Eventually my text sent but at this time it was too late. She did’t text again till the Monday, I organised a date for Tuesday (her last night) and she agreed. I felt things were on!

Date went really well and there was good sexual tension. To cut to the chase, I was standing outside her hotel and we kissed but she didn’t invite me up. I need to get more comfortable with leading in these situations. I could have done a better job and found some way to get up to her room. Those logical and nice guy traits are strong in me. ‘If she didn’t invite me up she mustn’t want sex’ I reasoned, so I didn’t push. She invited me over to America over the next few months and I was totally on board…that is until she turned crazy because I missed her call one night. I could not be arsed texting her for the next few months just for one lay when I could be focusing my energies elsewhere. Looking back it looks like I dodged a bullet.

So other than this date in January I’ve been dealing with the flake issue. I go over the sets in my head and question why they didn’t respond. A wing suggests that I’m not qualifying them enough and that the sets need to be more ‘spicy’. This is true. As rapport is developed I fall into the trap of ‘just having a chat with them’. Hopefully February offers more success. I’m heading to Denmark in the middle of the month to practice my limited skills on some Danes.