Campervan Fun

It’s been a busy weekend here in Dublin. The sun is shining and people are beginning to explore the city once again. Hopefully as restrictions reduce we’ll be able to hit the streets and get rolling on Summer 2020.

I needed to get out of the house on Friday. I was sick of the usual routine or lack thereof. I sent a text out seeing if a Brazilian girl I’ve been chatting to fancied going on a spin. It took her some convincing but I managed to persuade her in the end. We hit Dublin mountains as the sun was setting and she was really enjoying it. Throughout the journey I kept touching and testing the waters to see how receptive she was, I got no complaints and she began touching me which I thought was a good sign. It was getting late and as I parked up outside her house she jumped me and started kissing me heavily. I could tell she was horny by the way she was kissing. I slowly kissed her neck as she moaned loudly while her breathing got faster. I grabbed her juicy tits and then all of a sudden she went cold, said goodbye and left. She text me to say that she had a great time and was really horny but didn’t want to go any further that night. Fair enough!

Over the last few weeks I’d been getting texts of the other Brazilian girl I slept with in February. She was complaining that I never text and that I’m not interested in her anymore (which is kind of true). Once I sleep with a girl I get bored really quickly and my focus moves on to the next girl. I’ve had this discussion with a wing, he prefers to develop the connection with the girl and explore new and exciting things where I seem to want to get as many lays as I can and forget about the last notch. Anyway, I could tell she was horny as I kept brushing her off and then she began sending me naked pics. So Sunday I arranged a spin in the campervan. I picked her up and she was wearing a cute summer dress with no bra on. We drove for a little while and I decided to put my hand between her legs. Her pussy was soaking wet and she moaned as I slipped my finger inside. As I navigated the winding mountain roads, I pulled my shorts down and she began to suck me off as I tried to multitask. Failing miserably at that, I found the nearest spot to park and we jumped in the back. She loved the idea of getting caught and a few times people walked past out on their Sunday stroll. We experimented in the various positions one can do in a small campervan before I took the condom off and blew my load into her mouth. Once done she looked like she wanted to cuddle (this is the part I struggle with) I found an excuse to hop into the front and started the car. What are other men like after sex is over, do you enjoy those precious moments just chilling after the intimate act or are you, like me, planning the next lay in your mind? All in all a very busy happy weekend.

Lockdown Date

10 weeks into lockdown and my days of daygaming are a distant memory. Although I’m worried I’ve lost the progress I had made I’m sure once things start to relax a little I can get back to where I was before. Thankfully T.T. is back online having uploaded a decent amount of content onto his YouTube channel, Blacksheep Bandit. I have also reread The Game by Neil Strauss which has given me the motivation to really give night game a go once bars and clubs open again. The majority of the summer will be lost but we still have August to cut our teeth in the bars and clubs of the city. I’m sure the AA will be strong for the first few approaches a feeling I can’t wait to experience again! Anyway the point of the post. Two weeks ago I managed to organize a coffee date with a girl I knew from years ago. It was the final few minutes of the date that I want to discuss.

This girl was Irish and was moving to another part of the country two days later so it was a rushed kind of date. She didn’t live too far away from me so I told her we would grab coffee and go for a walk in the park. I gave her the option of meeting me in the park or me picking her up at her place and she went for the latter, a green light I thought. The date itself went well although it did get very chatty and friendly as we discussed things from the past (we had worked together in 2006). She mentioned that she was moving and had a heavy suitcase that she was struggling to move so I offered to move it when I dropped her home. She agreed. Another green light I thought. Fast-forward a few hours and I’m in her house. I’m not sure if it was being locked down for over 8 weeks but my adrenaline was up and I was finding it tricky to think straight. Once you’re in the house the rest just falls into place I thought. Not so. So I finished moving the case and was standing at the door. There was that awkward moment that I can’t get comfortable with which forced me to go for a somewhat half arsed kiss on cheek/side of face. With that over with I quickly got in my car and drove away. I mention this as it reminds me of the date I had with the American girl. As I walked her to her hotel and she stopped outside (I assumed we were going straight in) when she said goodbye and went for a kiss I got her cheek too and then left quickly after.

I think getting the cheek when I go in for a kiss feels like a rejection to me and instead of owning the situation and being a man and calling it out I get flustered and leave quickly. Reflecting I have definitely lost opportunities because of this. Have you experienced this before? I think I need to prepare myself to go directly for the lips and not give her the chance to offer her cheek or be ready to respond in assertive way if she does just give me a cheek. It’s a shit test and I’ve failed a few times. Hopefully the lesson is learnt.

Helpful Advice

It’s been two weeks of self isolation and as a result no daygame. The decent weather seems to be on its way and I’m sure, under different circumstances the streets of Dublin would be full of women waiting to be approached. With no opportunities to approach, I’ve been brushing up on my theory. Watching infields and rereading daygame books. As a result it got me thinking about my first few daygame sessions. In this post I will share some of the strategies that helped me when it came to making my first couple of approaches.

I was very familiar with the London Daygame Model and had viewed many infield videos on Torero and Tusk’s Youtube channel. Living in London I felt I was in the best place possible to daygame. I read lots of theory and was confident as I jumped on the Northern Line on my way into central London. Boy did that change when I hit the streets. I was so nervous I couldn’t even stop someone and ask for directions. Later that night I felt downcast and dejected and downloaded Tinder again. Tinder was my crutch for the next few weeks as it helped feed my ego. So first piece of advice would be to delete all dating apps. If you are getting validation off a dating app it will not motivate you to walk the streets looking to get hot girls’ numbers.

Eventually I came to my senses and contacted a Daygame Coach who put me in contact with a wing. Again, the first session back I was free-styling and could only stop a handful of women and ask for directions. It took me several more session to try out the front stop and stack. My wing was a lot more advanced than me and began pushing me into sets and not taking no for an answer. At the time I hated him for it but I’m so glad he pushed me as it helped me massively. Therefore, find a wing that has a bit more experience than you (if possible). They can use their experience to guide and push you when needed. A lot of times guys will find an excuse not to go and do the set, when starting out you need to find a wing that will push you into the trickiest of sets that will challenge you and help develop your skills.

Now that I had a proper wing I found that I was going out approaching consistently which helped build up a bit of momentum. AA reduced as a result and I found that I was becoming more confident in sets. Additionally, a useful piece of advice that Torero gave was to stick to one or two stacks until it becomes second nature. I stacked on nationality all the time and in London you are spoiled for choice when it comes to approaching girls from different nationalities. Same in Dublin, the majority of the sets that my wings and I do are with girls from overseas mainly Latin America.

Another thing I noticed after a couple of sessions was that I was generally confident approaching 6s and 7s but would shy away from anything above that. During one session my wing mentioned the 94 year old rule and his point hit home. It goes like this – when you’re 94 will you even remember the time a really hot girl rejected you? No. So fuck it and approach. The worst thing that could happen is she ignores you and continues on with her way. Quite often its the high 8s and 9s who are most receptive to being approached as most guys are reluctant to approach them, so fuck it and go for it! As they say rejection is always better than regret and I’m definitely regretting all the missed opportunities I lost when I had a chance to approach but didn’t.

Become familiar with LDM and watch infields on Youtube
Delete dating apps
Find a wing preferably with more experience than you
Stick to 1 or 2 stacks
Be consistent
Think of the 94 year old rule and go for it!

There are more inner game things that I could mention but I will leave that for another post.

Lay Report #2

One frosty evening about two weeks ago I received a message on my phone. The text was from a girl I stopped before Christmas who I went on a few dates with. The text said that she couldn’t give me what I wanted as she was a virgin and too nervous to try anything. She was in her mid 20s and from Brazil. Now, in the past I would have just left it and moved on, but I kept things very chilled and I could see over a few more text messages her curiosity coming through. She began asking me what other things we could explore other than sex. Over the next two weeks I began setting the scene. She was getting very horny with all the sex chats that we were having and on Wednesday she text to say that she wanted to try it out. Brilliant! Now I’ve never slept with a virgin before so was looking forward to the experience.

Friday night and the minute I closed the door it was on! Full of adrenaline she start kissing eagerly with her hands going everywhere. Over the next hour we progressed from very slowly rubbing the outside of her pussy to me pounding her hard as she lay on top of me. The sex was good and she really enjoyed putting her legs on my shoulders as I went deeper. We went again after a few glasses of wine which was even better. I had a much better experience compared to the last Brazilian, I was worried that she might act strange after sex but she was very cool. She had a really petite and feminine frame which really turned me on.

Looking back I’m glad I stuck with it, I controlled the frame after that text and guided her along subtly till she was ready to fuck!

Daygame Flakes

January is a tough month for daygame in Dublin. With the bad weather and everyone poor after the Christmas holidays the streets can be pretty quite. That didn’t stop my wings and I giving it a go and seeing what the streets had to offer. Having reviewed my success over the month it appears I did very poorly. I only managed to approach 19 girls and the quality of the sets were very poor. I went back into nice guy mode which didn’t help spike up conversations. From 5 numbers I had 4 flakes and one date. I stopped an American in the middle of the month and managed to get her out on a date. My wing spotted a tattooed girl with a big ass walk past us and sent me into the set. She was just my type. She was porn star hot, with juicy big lips and fake eye lashes. She was very receptive when I took her number, I told her that I would contact her later that night. She didn’t put the international code in so my first text never sent. I tried calling her but no joy. Eventually my text sent but at this time it was too late. She did’t text again till the Monday, I organised a date for Tuesday (her last night) and she agreed. I felt things were on!

Date went really well and there was good sexual tension. To cut to the chase, I was standing outside her hotel and we kissed but she didn’t invite me up. I need to get more comfortable with leading in these situations. I could have done a better job and found some way to get up to her room. Those logical and nice guy traits are strong in me. ‘If she didn’t invite me up she mustn’t want sex’ I reasoned, so I didn’t push. She invited me over to America over the next few months and I was totally on board…that is until she turned crazy because I missed her call one night. I could not be arsed texting her for the next few months just for one lay when I could be focusing my energies elsewhere. Looking back it looks like I dodged a bullet.

So other than this date in January I’ve been dealing with the flake issue. I go over the sets in my head and question why they didn’t respond. A wing suggests that I’m not qualifying them enough and that the sets need to be more ‘spicy’. This is true. As rapport is developed I fall into the trap of ‘just having a chat with them’. Hopefully February offers more success. I’m heading to Denmark in the middle of the month to practice my limited skills on some Danes.

Instant Date

Yesterday I was out with two of my wings. It was busy in town and I let a few good sets pass me by. I didn’t feel like I had a good vibe after a busy day at work. I drank a black coffee later than I usually do and felt a wave of anxiety go through me as I walked down Henry St. It was a stop start kind of session and I wasn’t feeling great. I opened an interesting looking black girl near the GPO but got nowhere. I had a couple of near misses before we decided to head across the bridge to Grafton St. As we got to the south side the Christmas lights were flashing as darkness covered the city. A girl all in black rushed past. I looked at my wing and he gave me the nod. I doubled back up the steps of the Ha’penny Bridge and chased the lady in black down. My initial thought was that she was a solid 8. When I opened her about being a black bear hiding in the darkness she hooked immediately and it was easy sailing from there. I found out that she was from Brazil, in Ireland two years and very receptive to my ‘Irish charm’. She literally did all the work for me.

Now today I was thinking if I learnt anything from the set. I’ve mentioned before that the majority of South American girls are very receptive and even after a weak set you normally come out with a number. I encountered no shit tests and after I closed for the number she mentioned how she had nothing on that evening and would love a drink. I suggested a bar and she agreed with a smile. The idate went really well, chatted about shit for a while, then escalated which she was receptive to. Walked her up Henry St and kissed her. I think I could have pushed for a bounce back to hers as she was getting very hot and moaning when I kissed her. In hindsight I regret not even suggesting it.

Has this experience helped me along in my journey? I’m not sure. I’m glad I got her out for an idate but she seems like a ‘Yes’ girl and would go along with anything I suggest. I’m relatively new to the whole daygame world. Do I need to skip the ‘easy’ sets and just go for more challenging sets in order to improve? Or do I go for everything till the whole process is embedded and it becomes second nature? Who knows!

Challenging Conditions

Dublin at the moment is wet, and it’s not from my sexual exploits. As the days have gotten darker and the weather has…well remained the same, conditions in Dublin have become harder. There have been a couple of days and after the end of the session I had only approached 2 or 3 girls. It’s harder to spot the 6 and 7s now that they’re all wrapped up or hiding under umbrellas. My wings and I are soldiering on with various degrees of success. I’ve found myself relying on the South American girls recently. I know they are very receptive and even if it’s not my strongest set I usually end up with a number. Now this is good for my ego but deep down I know I’m not making the strides I would like because I’m not taking risks with the high 8s and 9s. I have about 4 Brazilian girls I’m texting at the minute and it all seems so familiar. I’ve had a number of flakes recently too. I noticed that I was coming across way too friendly in my sets. I need to improve my sexual spikes and show the girl my intentions. Although it’s a struggle I appreciate that I’m at the bottom rung of the ladder. The grind now will hopefully pay off when the days get longer and the sun attempts to make an appearance. Planning on a weekend trip to London at Easter to show the lads what the seedy streets of Soho have to offer and then hopefully a trip around the Balkans in the summer to see if I can get a few new flags.

Learning

My first daygame lay left Dublin to head back to Brazil on Saturday, so I planned a date with another Brazilian for later that night. This one was a lot different, very confident expressing her views with a higher level of English. Throughout the texting period I could tell that she had some diva tendencies. She is a model back home in Brazil and I’m sure she’s used to getting her own way. We had organised to meet for drinks at 4:30pm but then she texted me to say that she was running late and if 6 would work. Some of my wings were having a few drinks in a pub close by as the weather was shit so I popped in there for a glass of vino. I made sure to be late and rocked up at 6:10pm before I walked her to the bar. I usually look over Torero’s dating video on YouTube before each date but since all his content came down a daygamer in NYC has broken each phase down into handy bullet point notes http://daygamenyc.com/ (thanks Runner). In the past I would avoid the ‘diva types’ but over the past few months daygame has given me the confidence to deal with their nonsense and turn it into my advantage. The date itself went well. In the first venue I went through each step, probably staying too long on blue and not enough time on red. At the second venue, it was more intimate and quieter so could bounce from blue to red a lot easier. By my 5th glass of wine I was very relaxed, leaning back and I noticed that she began to chase me. I asked her a few questions to figure out her thought process. She said she liked that I approached her, that nobody has ever done it to her before. She said she loves how I talk to her in such a ‘calm and chilled’ way (this could have been the red wine) and it excites her. There was a moments pause and then she went in for the kiss. The last hour was heavy kissing followed by periods of blue. She was meeting her mate to go dancing so I knew the lay was not on. She kept delaying her mate saying she wanted to spend more time with me. I think a more experienced daygamer could have worked their magic but overall I was happy with the date. I paid the bill which pissed me off this morning as I felt that came across as too needy.In my head the idea of splitting the bill at the end gets a bit awkward so I’d sooner just pay and be done with it. We have another date planned so we shall see how it goes, she’ll be paying next time!

Finally, 1st Lay Report

I haven’t updated this in a couple of weeks for number of reasons. Mainly because I wasn’t really getting much action. I was going out pretty regularly but not getting anywhere so decided to stop till I got further along the path in terms of daygame. I went through a stage of getting stuck on the stack, I would approach the girl, make the initial stop but then struggle with the stack. During one session two wings of mine, T and A, tweaked my front stop and since then I have seen a major improvement. The AA isn’t as crippling as it once was and I feel more comfortable opening a 2 set or the high 8s and 9s.

I was out one Wednesday with A and it was coming to the end of our session. It had been a decent enough day with a couple of number closes and good interactions. We were at the end of Henry Street when a girl in black walked by. I double checked with A to see if she was worth approaching and after he gave me the nod I went straight in. The set was fun and fluffy. Her English wasn’t the best which resulted in me slowing my speech down. I found out she was Brazilian and in Ireland for 2 weeks, bingo! I instant dated her to a traditional Irish pub and she loved it. We organised a night out for the following Sunday. To cut a long story short, it took two more dates. She was very cautious and I needed that extra date to create comfort and show her that I wasn’t a complete weirdo. The lay was great but my rookie mistake was not having more than one condoms. She wouldn’t let me go near her unprotected. I’ve heard certain girls from Latin America can get a little weird after sex. I noticed she was very distant for about an hour after, I gave her space and she snapped out of it after that. Overall a very enjoyable experience.

Date with Spanish Girl.

I’m jumping ahead a bit but since this happened yesterday, I want to write it down as it’s still fresh in my mind. This was the second date with this Spanish girl. She said at the start of the first date that she had a boyfriend but I wasn’t going to let that get in the way. We decided to go to a place not too from Dublin for a hike and a picnic. In my very limited ‘game’ mind the idea was to create a bubble so that she would feel comfortable and relaxed with me and not be thinking about the boyfriend. It was a beautiful September’s day and the hike was pleasant and chilled. She is very petite and feminine and as we were driving to the location she took her top off wearing only a string vest. I’m certain she sensed all the blood draining from the top half of my body heading south, I suddenly felt an adrenaline spike for a few moments, I wanted her there and then! Once the hike was over we had our picnic, making sure I sat nice and close. We ate and joked around as I slowly escalated. Within minutes her legs were in between mine, my hand up her top slowly rubbing her back. I kept giving her the tiger eyes and she kept giggling nervously. Now, at this point I knew it was time to close, but I kept getting her cheek. I cooled things off for a while and tried again, no joy! As we were leaving and I was packing things into the van she came over and hugged me. This lasted for about 10 seconds and I went for it again but nothing.

Reflecting, Torero always says about taking the bull by the horns and leading. I felt that I was leading but not with 100% conviction. I feel she was constantly debating in her mind whether to give herself up or stay loyal to the boyfriend. Other than that, I’m not sure what I should have done differently.