Instant Date

Yesterday I was out with two of my wings. It was busy in town and I let a few good sets pass me by. I didn’t feel like I had a good vibe after a busy day at work. I drank a black coffee later than I usually do and felt a wave of anxiety go through me as I walked down Henry St. It was a stop start kind of session and I wasn’t feeling great. I opened an interesting looking black girl near the GPO but got nowhere. I had a couple of near misses before we decided to head across the bridge to Grafton St. As we got to the south side the Christmas lights were flashing as darkness covered the city. A girl all in black rushed past. I looked at my wing and he gave me the nod. I doubled back up the steps of the Ha’penny Bridge and chased the lady in black down. My initial thought was that she was a solid 8. When I opened her about being a black bear hiding in the darkness she hooked immediately and it was easy sailing from there. I found out that she was from Brazil, in Ireland two years and very receptive to my ‘Irish charm’. She literally did all the work for me.

Now today I was thinking if I learnt anything from the set. I’ve mentioned before that the majority of South American girls are very receptive and even after a weak set you normally come out with a number. I encountered no shit tests and after I closed for the number she mentioned how she had nothing on that evening and would love a drink. I suggested a bar and she agreed with a smile. The idate went really well, chatted about shit for a while, then escalated which she was receptive to. Walked her up Henry St and kissed her. I think I could have pushed for a bounce back to hers as she was getting very hot and moaning when I kissed her. In hindsight I regret not even suggesting it.

Has this experience helped me along in my journey? I’m not sure. I’m glad I got her out for an idate but she seems like a ‘Yes’ girl and would go along with anything I suggest. I’m relatively new to the whole daygame world. Do I need to skip the ‘easy’ sets and just go for more challenging sets in order to improve? Or do I go for everything till the whole process is embedded and it becomes second nature? Who knows!

Challenging Conditions

Dublin at the moment is wet, and it’s not from my sexual exploits. As the days have gotten darker and the weather has…well remained the same, conditions in Dublin have become harder. There have been a couple of days and after the end of the session I had only approached 2 or 3 girls. It’s harder to spot the 6 and 7s now that they’re all wrapped up or hiding under umbrellas. My wings and I are soldiering on with various degrees of success. I’ve found myself relying on the South American girls recently. I know they are very receptive and even if it’s not my strongest set I usually end up with a number. Now this is good for my ego but deep down I know I’m not making the strides I would like because I’m not taking risks with the high 8s and 9s. I have about 4 Brazilian girls I’m texting at the minute and it all seems so familiar. I’ve had a number of flakes recently too. I noticed that I was coming across way too friendly in my sets. I need to improve my sexual spikes and show the girl my intentions. Although it’s a struggle I appreciate that I’m at the bottom rung of the ladder. The grind now will hopefully pay off when the days get longer and the sun attempts to make an appearance. Planning on a weekend trip to London at Easter to show the lads what the seedy streets of Soho have to offer and then hopefully a trip around the Balkans in the summer to see if I can get a few new flags.

Learning

My first daygame lay left Dublin to head back to Brazil on Saturday, so I planned a date with another Brazilian for later that night. This one was a lot different, very confident expressing her views with a higher level of English. Throughout the texting period I could tell that she had some diva tendencies. She is a model back home in Brazil and I’m sure she’s used to getting her own way. We had organised to meet for drinks at 4:30pm but then she texted me to say that she was running late and if 6 would work. Some of my wings were having a few drinks in a pub close by as the weather was shit so I popped in there for a glass of vino. I made sure to be late and rocked up at 6:10pm before I walked her to the bar. I usually look over Torero’s dating video on YouTube before each date but since all his content came down a daygamer in NYC has broken each phase down into handy bullet point notes http://daygamenyc.com/ (thanks Runner). In the past I would avoid the ‘diva types’ but over the past few months daygame has given me the confidence to deal with their nonsense and turn it into my advantage. The date itself went well. In the first venue I went through each step, probably staying too long on blue and not enough time on red. At the second venue, it was more intimate and quieter so could bounce from blue to red a lot easier. By my 5th glass of wine I was very relaxed, leaning back and I noticed that she began to chase me. I asked her a few questions to figure out her thought process. She said she liked that I approached her, that nobody has ever done it to her before. She said she loves how I talk to her in such a ‘calm and chilled’ way (this could have been the red wine) and it excites her. There was a moments pause and then she went in for the kiss. The last hour was heavy kissing followed by periods of blue. She was meeting her mate to go dancing so I knew the lay was not on. She kept delaying her mate saying she wanted to spend more time with me. I think a more experienced daygamer could have worked their magic but overall I was happy with the date. I paid the bill which pissed me off this morning as I felt that came across as too needy.In my head the idea of splitting the bill at the end gets a bit awkward so I’d sooner just pay and be done with it. We have another date planned so we shall see how it goes, she’ll be paying next time!

Finally, 1st Lay Report

I haven’t updated this in a couple of weeks for number of reasons. Mainly because I wasn’t really getting much action. I was going out pretty regularly but not getting anywhere so decided to stop till I got further along the path in terms of daygame. I went through a stage of getting stuck on the stack, I would approach the girl, make the initial stop but then struggle with the stack. During one session two wings of mine, T and A, tweaked my front stop and since then I have seen a major improvement. The AA isn’t as crippling as it once was and I feel more comfortable opening a 2 set or the high 8s and 9s.

I was out one Wednesday with A and it was coming to the end of our session. It had been a decent enough day with a couple of number closes and good interactions. We were at the end of Henry Street when a girl in black walked by. I double checked with A to see if she was worth approaching and after he gave me the nod I went straight in. The set was fun and fluffy. Her English wasn’t the best which resulted in me slowing my speech down. I found out she was Brazilian and in Ireland for 2 weeks, bingo! I instant dated her to a traditional Irish pub and she loved it. We organised a night out for the following Sunday. To cut a long story short, it took two more dates. She was very cautious and I needed that extra date to create comfort and show her that I wasn’t a complete weirdo. The lay was great but my rookie mistake was not having more than one condoms. She wouldn’t let me go near her unprotected. I’ve heard certain girls from Latin America can get a little weird after sex. I noticed she was very distant for about an hour after, I gave her space and she snapped out of it after that. Overall a very enjoyable experience.

Date with Spanish Girl.

I’m jumping ahead a bit but since this happened yesterday, I want to write it down as it’s still fresh in my mind. This was the second date with this Spanish girl. She said at the start of the first date that she had a boyfriend but I wasn’t going to let that get in the way. We decided to go to a place not too from Dublin for a hike and a picnic. In my very limited ‘game’ mind the idea was to create a bubble so that she would feel comfortable and relaxed with me and not be thinking about the boyfriend. It was a beautiful September’s day and the hike was pleasant and chilled. She is very petite and feminine and as we were driving to the location she took her top off wearing only a string vest. I’m certain she sensed all the blood draining from the top half of my body heading south, I suddenly felt an adrenaline spike for a few moments, I wanted her there and then! Once the hike was over we had our picnic, making sure I sat nice and close. We ate and joked around as I slowly escalated. Within minutes her legs were in between mine, my hand up her top slowly rubbing her back. I kept giving her the tiger eyes and she kept giggling nervously. Now, at this point I knew it was time to close, but I kept getting her cheek. I cooled things off for a while and tried again, no joy! As we were leaving and I was packing things into the van she came over and hugged me. This lasted for about 10 seconds and I went for it again but nothing.

Reflecting, Torero always says about taking the bull by the horns and leading. I felt that I was leading but not with 100% conviction. I feel she was constantly debating in her mind whether to give herself up or stay loyal to the boyfriend. Other than that, I’m not sure what I should have done differently.

Infield Report – 21/8/19, Dublin

I went out with my wings on a rainy evening in Dublin after I arrived back from Colombia. Weather was shite and my vibe was off. First session back since May. I only managed to do one approach but got her number. A saw a girl walk past me on Henry Street wearing tight white jeans with a big juicy ass. As I got closer I realized her face wasn’t great but I persisted and got her number. Turns out she was Mexican and her texting abilities were limited. My approach was strong but I startled her, spoke too fast and I had to repeat myself a few times. On the way home I was annoyed that I only approached 1 girl so decided to go out the next day.

Infield Report -28/05/19

I was doing an open mic later that night so had a few hours to kill. I’ve been trying to push myself to do more solo game in order to improve and not rely on having a wing. The weather wasn’t ideal put I wasn’t prepared to listen to any weasels. I placed myself on a nice spot at the top of Henry Street (it is now one of my favorite spots to fish) and watched the lovely ladies pass me by. I’ve been eyeing South Americans lately as I feel they are easier to approach. One passed me and I regretted not taking action. Thankfully I saw her again further down Henry Street and I went in. ‘You look South American’ I said with a smile. I teased her about the weather in Ireland and why she wasn’t on the beach in a bikini. She was very compliant and open but didn’t invest. I was pretty unsure what to do after as I was waiting for her to hook. I fell into ‘Hairdresser Questions’ mode and lost the frame. Recently I’ve noticed girls I approach are a little confused as I am speaking too quickly for them and they don’t fully know what is going on. I got her number but she flaked – I wasn’t surprised.

Overall, happy with getting a number while I was out solo but need to push myself more.

Infield Report – Dublin, 25/5/19

I had been living back in Dublin for a few months when I got a ping on my phone telling me that Tusk had added me to a group on whatsapp. A Daygame group was created and from that I got chatting to a few guys based in Ireland who had done daygame in the past. Most of the lads seemed about my level so after a few texts we decided to head out on the streets of Dirty Dublin and try our hand at a bit of game. This was my first time attempting it in Ireland and my first time after a hiatus of about 7 months. The guy that got me into Tom Torero in Dubai in 2017 was up in Dublin and decided to tag along. Myself and T met up with M from the whatsapp group.

We started off with a coffee and a walk up O’Connell street. Not much was happening as the street seemed too crowded. We decided to head down towards Henry Street and although busy, I was hoping we could spot a few single sets to warm us up. I saw a girl walking up the street holding a helmet. For some reason AA didn’t seem strong at all and I had no hesitations when I approached. The stack was clumpy and flat (I had mentioned her helmet and she left. I noticed she had really bad teeth, so when she showed no interest I just let her go. It wasn’t long after when M and T got off the mark with some strong approaches. At the top of Henry Street I saw a cute girl in gym gear, again without hesitation I walked straight up to her. She seemed interested but I couldn’t think of what to say after the stack. I mentioned just being in the gym etc. but the conversation didn’t go anywhere. It went quiet for a while as we went south of the river. After about 30 minutes we decided to head back towards Henry Street. M got a really cute Mexican girl’s number just before he headed off, she was open and friendly and was delighted to have been approached. T and I floated about doing a couple of sets that lead nowhere. Finally as we neared the Ilac a south american girl with great tits walks by. I count to three and walk back. After a patchy start things are going well but her English is terrible. I keep looking at her great set of tits and she gives me a knowing smile. Because her English is so bad and due to my lack of experience I’m not sure what to do. I eventually get her number and leave. Looking back I’m not sure if an instant date would have been a better idea as she knew I was attracted to her. We stay on Henry street and T gets a tasty American number, she was so receptive and happy that he approached. As we are strolling through Temple Bar I spot my ideal girl. She’s mixed race with an afro, tall and slim walking with a purpose. I tell myself that I’m nowhere near ready to approach her but T pushes me in. Already I had failed as I was telling myself this on my approach. I open, stack and it turns out she’s Irish! That caught me off guard completely. Ireland has its fair share of beautiful mix race girls but usually they’re from South America. Unlike London, the mix of Irish mixed with black is not as common (I wish it was). I’m glad I did the approach and looking back I need to prepare myself for all eventualities to get past the stacking phase.

Conclusion – As a very inexperienced daygamer I feel Dublin is easier to approach compared with London. Although we didn’t approach many Irish girls there are a lot of other nationalities who are delighted with an approach and are more than happy to pass on their number. I reckon an experienced daygamer would clean up on the streets of Dirty Dublin.

Infield Report, London, 12/09/18

Solo for the first time. Y said he is moving to Cyprus in a month so I need to get used to approaching solo. Hung around Trafalgar Sq for a while but nothing was happening. The evening was dry and mild so was happy to be out.

Crossed Westminister Bridge and saw a girl storming past. Hesitated but went for it. Not the strongest of stops. I said she looked nice and she just powered on. Glad I got off the mark but this needs to improve if I’m to get anywhere.

Here concludes my daygaming experience in London. I’m sure I went back on the dating apps for the next couple of months with a lot of success but little sense of achievement. I moved back to Ireland in January and it wasn’t until May that I did my first approaches on the streets of Dublin with an old and new wing.

Infield Report, London, 4/9/18

I’m going to start with my final approach and the lesson I learnt as a result. Myself and Y had just finished a two hour session in central. We were sitting in Covent Garden and a girl passed. She was very sexy, in gym gear and walked with a purpose. I went and approached. She had a bottle in her mouth and an apple in her hand. I mentioned how sexy she looked even though she had her mouth full. She laughed. I played around with her and everything was going well. Now the thing is, as I approached in my head I had told myself that she was not going to be interested. As the set progressed I was panicking as I had already set myself up for failure. She said that she was from Chile and was openly waiting for me to continue, I lost the frame and left. The learning point here is to quieten the negative voices in your head before you approach because the majority of women love being stoped, it’s the logical side of my brain that is telling me otherwise.

Overall it was a good day today, I managed 5 approaches.First there was a girl near Piccadilly Circus, she looked great from a distance but wasn’t too good closer up. I was happy to get the first one done. A little while later, near Covent Garden I approached a really hot girl. She was Italian and her English was really bad. I slowed my speech way down but it was a struggle. Another girl near Covent Garden who I thought was a tourist turned out to be English. She had no interest in chatting and walked away. It dipped for a while and then saw a cute mixed race girl on Oxford Street. She seemed surprised and probably would have continued chatting but I walked away. Reflecting on today’s performance, I’m slowly getting the approaches up but I need to be ready to stack more and stick to the frame.