Category: General

Where to begin?

I’ve been recently reading other DGer’s blogs and enjoying finding out about their trials and tribulations with daygame during Covid restrictions. I must applaud their efforts as they grind it out on the streets! I myself have been a lazy bastard who hasn’t been out since the start of September. Speaking to some of my former wings the streets of Dublin haven’t been very giving over the past few months. With the yo-yoing of lockdowns and with a higher amount of guys approaching girls in Dublin it has been tricky to find success. I cant help think what could have been if the lockdown didn’t take place. A solid group of 5 daygamers were consistently going out approaching and getting results. We had about 6 months of going out 3/4 times a week and most of us were starting to enjoy the fruits of our labor. Alas it was not meant to be!

Reflecting back on such a strange year I have two memories that stand out the most. The first was deflowering the Brazilian virgin. She was hot and cold for such a long time that when she agreed to come over to my place it felt like a big win. It was my first time sleeping with a virgin and then, to have her a few months later give me a blow job as I drove my car in the mountains made the experience even sweeter.

Next was stopping and dating the American Instagram model. I remember seeing her ahead of me in the street and thinking she looked unbelievable but struggling to muster the courage to approach. Thankfully my wing pushed me in to the set which I’m glad he did. Unfortunately, I didn’t get the lay and she had this romantic notion in her head that we were going to date long distance, I cut contact after a while. Knowing that I had success with such an intimidating set really galvanized me into doing tougher sets… and then we went into lockdown.

Since the summer I’ve been dating a hot older Mexican girl that I matched with off Tinder. It worked well for both of us but it killed any drive I had to push myself on the streets. I have recently cut contact with her and I’m hoping the Christmas holidays will make me see sense and encourage me to get back up on the horse and try again. I don’t know about anyone else but I’m finding the facemasks such a barrier. I cant fully see their face which doesn’t help and I also know that this is just another excuse . I have goals for 2021 that I will discuss in a later post but for now I’m off to enjoy the holidays. Hopefully 2021 has bigger and brighter things for all of us!

Inner Game for Daygame

When the topic of inner game comes up you find some guys are in favor and others tend to avoid. As we continue along the isolation journey I’m trying to write down some of the useful things that have helped me along the way. With inner game it divides opinion.

Inner game was an area T.T. wasn’t keen on while other coaches in the community encourage and deliver important strategies on their YouTube channel. One channel that puts a lot of content up relating to it is Fluid Social. Sam offers a holistic approach to self development and improvement. I find his content very useful and when I follow his steps my sessions are usually more productive. Sometimes when I plan a session after a busy day at work I go into auto pilot mode and smash a few sets without fully engaging in the experience. I take nothing from the session and continue along on my way. Other times when I actively follow these steps I find that my vibe is better, I’ve more energy, my awareness is heightened and my confidence is on point resulting in a more productive session.

Usually my routine begins the night before a session. I will take some time to visualize the sets that I will do the following day. I make up the type of conversations I want to have and imagine the look and style of the girls that I will stop. I’ll walk myself through the front stop right to the number close. Next I write down the non-negotiables like the amount of approaches I need to do/numbers I need to get or idates that I will go on. On the journey into town I usually listen to one of Sam’s videos to get me ready for my session, I find this one helpful https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4UI7Dlp1dVo. Once I’m on the streets I take five minutes to focus on the environment, my breathing and my footsteps on the ground and then I’m ready to start. Now some of you will think it’s a load of bollox, you don’t need to do any of that in order to have a successful session and fair enough if that is the case. For me I feel it helps reduce AA and it starts me off on the right footing and gives me a better vibe that the girls pick up on.

If you suffer from AA or struggle to build momentum during sessions give it a go and see. Check out Sam’s other material on YouTube as I’m sure you’ll find it useful.

Helpful Advice

It’s been two weeks of self isolation and as a result no daygame. The decent weather seems to be on its way and I’m sure, under different circumstances the streets of Dublin would be full of women waiting to be approached. With no opportunities to approach, I’ve been brushing up on my theory. Watching infields and rereading daygame books. As a result it got me thinking about my first few daygame sessions. In this post I will share some of the strategies that helped me when it came to making my first couple of approaches.

I was very familiar with the London Daygame Model and had viewed many infield videos on Torero and Tusk’s Youtube channel. Living in London I felt I was in the best place possible to daygame. I read lots of theory and was confident as I jumped on the Northern Line on my way into central London. Boy did that change when I hit the streets. I was so nervous I couldn’t even stop someone and ask for directions. Later that night I felt downcast and dejected and downloaded Tinder again. Tinder was my crutch for the next few weeks as it helped feed my ego. So first piece of advice would be to delete all dating apps. If you are getting validation off a dating app it will not motivate you to walk the streets looking to get hot girls’ numbers.

Eventually I came to my senses and contacted a Daygame Coach who put me in contact with a wing. Again, the first session back I was free-styling and could only stop a handful of women and ask for directions. It took me several more session to try out the front stop and stack. My wing was a lot more advanced than me and began pushing me into sets and not taking no for an answer. At the time I hated him for it but I’m so glad he pushed me as it helped me massively. Therefore, find a wing that has a bit more experience than you (if possible). They can use their experience to guide and push you when needed. A lot of times guys will find an excuse not to go and do the set, when starting out you need to find a wing that will push you into the trickiest of sets that will challenge you and help develop your skills.

Now that I had a proper wing I found that I was going out approaching consistently which helped build up a bit of momentum. AA reduced as a result and I found that I was becoming more confident in sets. Additionally, a useful piece of advice that Torero gave was to stick to one or two stacks until it becomes second nature. I stacked on nationality all the time and in London you are spoiled for choice when it comes to approaching girls from different nationalities. Same in Dublin, the majority of the sets that my wings and I do are with girls from overseas mainly Latin America.

Another thing I noticed after a couple of sessions was that I was generally confident approaching 6s and 7s but would shy away from anything above that. During one session my wing mentioned the 94 year old rule and his point hit home. It goes like this – when you’re 94 will you even remember the time a really hot girl rejected you? No. So fuck it and approach. The worst thing that could happen is she ignores you and continues on with her way. Quite often its the high 8s and 9s who are most receptive to being approached as most guys are reluctant to approach them, so fuck it and go for it! As they say rejection is always better than regret and I’m definitely regretting all the missed opportunities I lost when I had a chance to approach but didn’t.

  1. Become familiar with LDM and watch infields on Youtube
  2. Delete dating apps
  3. Find a wing preferably with more experience than you
  4. Stick to 1 or 2 stacks
  5. Be consistent
  6. Think of the 94 year old rule and go for it!

There are more inner game things that I could mention but I will leave that for another post.

Daygame Flakes

January is a tough month for daygame in Dublin. With the bad weather and everyone poor after the Christmas holidays the streets can be pretty quite. That didn’t stop my wings and I giving it a go and seeing what the streets had to offer. Having reviewed my success over the month it appears I did very poorly. I only managed to approach 19 girls and the quality of the sets were very poor. I went back into nice guy mode which didn’t help spike up conversations. From 5 numbers I had 4 flakes and one date. I stopped an American in the middle of the month and managed to get her out on a date. My wing spotted a tattooed girl with a big ass walk past us and sent me into the set. She was just my type. She was porn star hot, with juicy big lips and fake eye lashes. She was very receptive when I took her number, I told her that I would contact her later that night. She didn’t put the international code in so my first text never sent. I tried calling her but no joy. Eventually my text sent but at this time it was too late. She did’t text again till the Monday, I organised a date for Tuesday (her last night) and she agreed. I felt things were on!

Date went really well and there was good sexual tension. To cut to the chase, I was standing outside her hotel and we kissed but she didn’t invite me up. I need to get more comfortable with leading in these situations. I could have done a better job and found some way to get up to her room. Those logical and nice guy traits are strong in me. ‘If she didn’t invite me up she mustn’t want sex’ I reasoned, so I didn’t push. She invited me over to America over the next few months and I was totally on board…that is until she turned crazy because I missed her call one night. I could not be arsed texting her for the next few months just for one lay when I could be focusing my energies elsewhere. Looking back it looks like I dodged a bullet.

So other than this date in January I’ve been dealing with the flake issue. I go over the sets in my head and question why they didn’t respond. A wing suggests that I’m not qualifying them enough and that the sets need to be more ‘spicy’. This is true. As rapport is developed I fall into the trap of ‘just having a chat with them’. Hopefully February offers more success. I’m heading to Denmark in the middle of the month to practice my limited skills on some Danes.

Challenging Conditions

Dublin at the moment is wet, and it’s not from my sexual exploits. As the days have gotten darker and the weather has…well remained the same, conditions in Dublin have become harder. There have been a couple of days and after the end of the session I had only approached 2 or 3 girls. It’s harder to spot the 6 and 7s now that they’re all wrapped up or hiding under umbrellas. My wings and I are soldiering on with various degrees of success. I’ve found myself relying on the South American girls recently. I know they are very receptive and even if it’s not my strongest set I usually end up with a number. Now this is good for my ego but deep down I know I’m not making the strides I would like because I’m not taking risks with the high 8s and 9s. I have about 4 Brazilian girls I’m texting at the minute and it all seems so familiar. I’ve had a number of flakes recently too. I noticed that I was coming across way too friendly in my sets. I need to improve my sexual spikes and show the girl my intentions. Although it’s a struggle I appreciate that I’m at the bottom rung of the ladder. The grind now will hopefully pay off when the days get longer and the sun attempts to make an appearance. Planning on a weekend trip to London at Easter to show the lads what the seedy streets of Soho have to offer and then hopefully a trip around the Balkans in the summer to see if I can get a few new flags.

Learning

My first daygame lay left Dublin to head back to Brazil on Saturday, so I planned a date with another Brazilian for later that night. This one was a lot different, very confident expressing her views with a higher level of English. Throughout the texting period I could tell that she had some diva tendencies. She is a model back home in Brazil and I’m sure she’s used to getting her own way. We had organised to meet for drinks at 4:30pm but then she texted me to say that she was running late and if 6 would work. Some of my wings were having a few drinks in a pub close by as the weather was shit so I popped in there for a glass of vino. I made sure to be late and rocked up at 6:10pm before I walked her to the bar. I usually look over Torero’s dating video on YouTube before each date but since all his content came down a daygamer in NYC has broken each phase down into handy bullet point notes http://daygamenyc.com/ (thanks Runner). In the past I would avoid the ‘diva types’ but over the past few months daygame has given me the confidence to deal with their nonsense and turn it into my advantage. The date itself went well. In the first venue I went through each step, probably staying too long on blue and not enough time on red. At the second venue, it was more intimate and quieter so could bounce from blue to red a lot easier. By my 5th glass of wine I was very relaxed, leaning back and I noticed that she began to chase me. I asked her a few questions to figure out her thought process. She said she liked that I approached her, that nobody has ever done it to her before. She said she loves how I talk to her in such a ‘calm and chilled’ way (this could have been the red wine) and it excites her. There was a moments pause and then she went in for the kiss. The last hour was heavy kissing followed by periods of blue. She was meeting her mate to go dancing so I knew the lay was not on. She kept delaying her mate saying she wanted to spend more time with me. I think a more experienced daygamer could have worked their magic but overall I was happy with the date. I paid the bill which pissed me off this morning as I felt that came across as too needy.In my head the idea of splitting the bill at the end gets a bit awkward so I’d sooner just pay and be done with it. We have another date planned so we shall see how it goes, she’ll be paying next time!

Jump into June

So as summer 2018 was slowly passing by I got a notification on my phone. The app store was giving me a gentle reminder that my Tinder subscription was almost up and that I should act quickly to sign up again and pay my £80 for 6 months, bargain right? A few weeks before I began following James Tusk on Youtube, I liked his style and decided not to go with the Tinder subscription and to message him instead. A week later he had hooked me up with a wing named Y. Unfortunately James was busy for the summer so I missed out on a coaching session with him. 
One sunny Sunday I met up with Y for my first ‘proper’ session. Y had received a few coaching sessions with another PUA affiliated with Tusk. He looked the part and was definitely more experienced at this than I was. We had a coffee and discussed our POA. We planned to go out as often as possible (at the time I was working crazy London hours and he was working unsociable hours but we made it work). I look back on that day with a smile, I was clueless and could only muster the courage to ask for directions although managed to develop two conversations. One was with an Italian girl on Regent Street, I asked her where she was from and tried to do the whole ‘I’ve been told you need to be careful with Italian girls because they like to party’ trick but ended up talking about Italian food and how it makes you sleepy. Y was smashing it, approached some really hot girls and his vibe was strong. We ended up at Embankment shattered after the day’s events. I was really looking forward to doing it all again soon. 

From then on in I began to take notes on the way home on the tube. The next few posts are those aforementioned notes. This blog is hopefully the kick up the backside I need to start daygaming again. My accountability mirror if you will. 

Winter 2018, London

On a wet and cold January afternoon I met my first ‘wing’ who I hoped would encourage me to approach some beautiful ladies and hopefully bed a few in the process. The result after 2 hours of walking around the streets of London was far from that. The dreaded AA took a strong grip over me as the wicked weasel whispered in my ear. To be clear, I wasn’t even trying to approach to complement them, I was approaching to ask for directions. In my head I felt insincere or untrustworthy, maybe it was the Catholic guilt coming out. Eventually on the edge of Covent Garden I saw a well dressed lady (in her 40s)  walking up the street. I steadied my nerve and front stopped her. Needless to say she was more than happy to give me directions to Oxford Street and although it was a brief and innocent interaction, I was walking like I banged a 10. Forgive me, the AA was extremely bad. 


A week later, we tried again. Managed to stop a few more girls but no development in conversation but a pretty good understanding of directions in the Covent Garden/ Soho area. By the following week my wing had left London and I was all alone to deal with my AA…so I downloaded Tinder again. 

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  2. Toby's avatar

    Hey, I’m going to be moving to Dublin in Oct. Are there any PUA lairs active still or is there…